Montessori and The Wonder Weeks - Part I: 0-6 months

I have been reading The Wonder Weeks, which documents your baby's mental leaps based on cognitive science (ie. notable changes in brain wave activity and growth of head circumference during specific weeks in their development).  Their suggestions for activities to do with your baby to promote that mental leap are super compatible with Montessori. 

Here are the notes I've made for the first six months, and the corresponding Montessori materials.  I will update this to include links as I go back and document what we used over the first months!

THE WONDER WEEKS	Montessori Materials
Newborn - 5 weeks (1 month) World of strange sensations Cannot distinguish between himself and the outer world, whether his discomfort comes from his body or outside it Sight: can see about a foot away (to mother’s face), beyond that vision is blurred React best to strong contrasts: black and white holds their attention the longest, red and white etc, is also effective Can track moving objects as long as the movement is slow and deliberate Sound: likes sounds that resemble the thump of the heart, veins and other internal organs familiar from the womb Smell: can recognize mother’s smell if presented with her clothing Feel: can sense temperature changes but cannot regulate her temperature; being touched is the best amusement	The black and white Munari mobile to stimulate vision The topponcino, which the mother sleeps with before birth, to comfort baby with mother’s smell
Week 8 (2 months) World of Patterns Ay 6-8 weeks, baby’s head circumference increases dramatically and there are changes in their brain waves Baby no longer experiences himself and his world as one universe Discovers his hands or feet, will voluntarily grasp a toy instead relying on reflex Looks at luminous and shiny things Makes sounds, sings, interrupts when others are talking	Simple grasping toys: grasping beads, bell rattle, puzzle ball Montessori mobiles: the shiny octahedron mobile, gobbi mobile (our baby batted at this one)
Week 12 (3 months) World of Smooth Transitions Can recognize subtle and gradual changes Better control of bodily movement Vision improves and will soon be as good as an adult’s Studies and plays with your hands Can shift between loud and soft sounds Produces sounds that resembles vowels	Montessori mobiles: gobbi mobile in gradations of colour, dancers mobile (this one moves very subtly) Bell rattle Box of textured fabrics *maybe a good time to introduce baby sign language
Week 19 (4.5 months) World of Events String together patterns and transitions to become events eg. he can reach out for a toy, grasp it, shake it, turn it around to inspect it, put it in his mouth Speak in babbling sentences Recognize short flowing sounds Recognize familiar tunes Can understand simple, familiar sentences Enjoys mirror games - recognizes mom and her reflection Dramatic changes in brain waves and increase in head circumference	Bell rattle Puzzle ball Sing musical scale Movement mirror

Starting Elimination Communication at 6.5 months

I had read that elimination communication was most successful if you started between 0-6 months, so when the six month mark passed, I began to despair.  I had always known that I wanted to do elimination communication from birth -- I had imagined myself with a newborn, lying diaper-free on my lap, calmly observing her for signs for needing to pee or poo.  But although I tried this, her pees were quick drizzles that were hard to catch, and although I'd catch an occasional poo in the potty, she was an infrequent pooper who would go for more than a week and then explode without warning.  And then other circumstances, like our struggles with a low milk supply, prevented me from taking her to the potty right after a feed. 

When I read of other Montessori families (here and here) that introduced the potty later on, with great success, I took heart.  And at 6 months, suddenly the stars began to align.  She was able to sit up straight, which made the potty a lot more comfortable for her than when I was holding her awkwardly over it.  She was pooping everyday on a schedule -- at roughly 9am, with telltale farts -- so it seemed stupid not to put her on the potty when I knew there was a poo coming.  And once I did, it was very much "Why didn't I do this earlier?"  Very quickly we had all our poos in the potty (with only one or two accidents per month), and a pee in the potty every time I changed her diaper.  She still pees in her diaper, but the fact that she associates eliminating with the potty is a win.  As is not having to clean up a poopy bum or wash poopy diapers!

Inspired by (but coming too late) to the Montessori home challenge, I have just begun to set up a toilet station.  A basket for our lovely cloth diapers and covers, another basket holding a lap blanket and some reading material while she's on the loo.  And tissues for wiping her bottom, currently propped up on a little cardboard box.  I think this warrants setting up some low shelves in the near future for all her toilet materials, so that they're visible to her as we go through the routine.

As I am writing this we are going through a small "potty regression" at 9 months. I used to catch 99% of the poos and perhaps 70% of her pees, but in the past few days I keep having misses.  I don't know the cause -- maybe it's because we're teething, having sleep regressions, or generally being more active, going out more, missing our scheduled "potty-tunities."  But it doesn't matter.  Elimination communication is stress-free; I never keep her on the potty longer than she wants to be on it.  I'll do the baby sign for "diaper," tell her I'm going to change her, do the baby sign for "potty" and ask if she'd like to sit on it, and if she's in a bad mood we call it off.  And in the future, when she has a miss, I'll remember to tell her "Ooops, let's go in the potty next time."

We mostly potty on a schedule, when we wake up in the morning, and before and after we go out, but I have bookmarked this list of tell-tale trumps and hope to be more aware of her signs as time goes by.